For one thing, such "rod using" education mode has no possibility of achieving the goal of education:the forming of a child's judgment on right and wrong as well as the developing of a child's self-control ability. Children are always inquisitive and destructive, tearing up books, throwing down vases and etc,which will make you feel rather angry. Punish them or explain to them, you are faced up with a choice. In fact, whichever method you choose, it will be effective at that time. The only difference is that the former one works on children's fear of penalty and the latter one on their realization of mistakes. Fears disappearing quickly, children are likely to repeat their wrong activities if you only punish them. Once learning why they are wrong and knowing what is allowed and what is banned, the children may avoid making the same mistakes in the future. And little by little,children's judging ability will be developed. So in the long run,pointing out the mistakes and what is permitted seem more wise.
Similarly, such "penalty emphasizing" education mode,which somewhat seems a bit violent, harms children's growth and the forming of their characters. "Many adults' mental diseases have close relationship with their childhood's penalty", psychiatrists say on a large number of researches. Furthermore,such education mode may result in children's rebellious temperaments or too timid and weak characters. Additionally, this mode will widen the gap between two generations. With all these unexpected results, we would better think deeply over this education mode.
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Making friends, in some sense, resembles enjoying music. I never choose bright music whenever I am blue, because the sentimental melody soothes my tense nerve and assures me that I am understood and cared and not alone in this toughest time, and because I will feel strengthened when someone can grieve at my grief.
一直有一个观点在中国,“闲了棍子,惯了孩子”。怎么这个点形式和传播中国悠久的历史可能会引起我的好奇心。然而,真正让我感兴趣的是这个观点是否仍然是值得采用的在我们的现代社会。
首先,这种“杆使用“教育模式不可能实现教育的目标:形成孩子的判断对与错以及孩子的自我控制能力的发展。孩子们总是好奇和破坏性,撕毁书籍,扔花瓶等,这将使你感到相当愤怒。惩罚他们或者向他们解释,你面临了一个选择。事实上,不管选择哪一种方法,这将是有效的。唯一的区别在于,前者适用于一个孩子害怕处罚,后者一个实现的错误。恐惧迅速消失,孩子们可能会重复错误的活动如果你只惩罚他们。一旦学习他们为什么是错的,知道什么是允许的,什么是被禁止的,孩子们可能会避免犯同样的错误在未来。一点点,发展孩子的判断能力。所以从长远来看,指出错误并允许更明智。
同样,这样的“点球强调“教育模式,这似乎有点暴力,伤害儿童的成长和形成的字符。“许多成年人的心理疾病有密切的关系与他们的童年的惩罚”,精神病学家说,在大量的研究。此外,这样的教育方式会导致孩子的叛逆性格或太胆小和软弱的字符。此外,这种模式将扩大两代人之间的差距。与所有这些意想不到的结果,我们将对这种教育模式更好的思考。
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交朋友,在某种意义上,就像享受音乐。我从来没有选择明亮的音乐当我蓝色,因为伤感旋律舒缓紧张的神经,向我保证我理解和关心,而不是独自在这个艰难的时间,因为我感觉加强当有人可以在我的悲伤悲伤。
